Thursday, April 30, 2009

Divorce

First of all, Kelso is getting better. Looks like it was some sort of nasty kitty cold? Anyway, all is well. :)

Yesterday one of my friends (J) e-mailed me that she was having problems with her husband and she was considering divorce as one of her many options. She hasn't slept with him in 3 months, she is bitter and is starting to resent him. But she is (obviously) scared to end the marriage. It's a huge deal! She doesn't want to lose his family, she has two young kids, and they planned to have a third child eventually.

They are barely scraping by financially. She has a decent job, but he doesn't make that much working at a gas station, she it's not like she would get very much child support either. If she can't even make it now on two salaries, how is she going to make it on hers alone?

Obviously, if she is that unhappy, she should leave him. But she felt this way over two years ago as well. I remember her telling me the same story...until he decided they could try for another child. Then all was well while they tried to get pregnant and for a while after the baby was born. Now she feels the same way again---except she said she is thinking about staying until they have one more kid. WHAT?!

I'm trying to be supportive of her, but that is crazy! Another one of her ideas was to have an open marriage...I don't see that going well either. I told her she needs to have a honest conversation with him this weekend and tell him how unhappy she is.

(I know divorce is common...but I'm not even 24 yet (I have until Monday!!) and this is the second friend of mine to think about divorce. The other couple IS getting divorced. She's moving out in May. It's all kind of scary. )

Granted, J and her husband got engaged/married early on in their relationship. She feels like they got swept up and didn't really get to know each other. She also admitted she felt she would never do any better, so she married him. My bf (Tom) and I have been together almost 3 years, and have lived together for 2. We aren't even engaged yet, but I know it's coming soon. But I don't think that makes us safe either. Divorce can happen to anyone. :( And I don't know what to do NOW so that I don't end up divorced down the road. I know you can't plan for those type of things...but I wish there was a way to really KNOW I was making the right decisions in life...

Tuesday, April 28, 2009

Sick Cat!


My poor Kelso is sick! Yes, I am one of those girls who really, REALLY loves her cat(s)!


For the past couple days his nose has been BRIGHT red and almost raw? Like he keeps licking it until he makes it so raw. And he doesn't have a good appetite...and just lays in the same spot all day long. :( He's only 4 and I'm not ready to part with him yet so it better not be anything serious! We will find out tomorrow at the vet I guess...
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I started Weight Watchers on Monday. I know it's only been 2 days, but it's been going really well. I know this is going to work. I can just tell. I lost 33 pounds on my own, and it was time for some help. Hello, bikini body!





Tuesday, April 21, 2009

Katie!


Here is the newest picture of Baby Katie! She is about 6 weeks old and looks more and more like daddy every day! I wish we lived closer so we could visit her. My bf is so excited to be an uncle, but living in Minnesota it's pretty hard to see baby Katie in TEXAS! :( But "Katie" gets on MSN messenger and waves "hi" to Uncle Tommy & Auntie Danielle. I guess that's that best we've got for now.


Spring Has Sprung!

It's supposed to get close to EIGHTY degrees here on Thursday. This is amazing! Although I'll be at work all day...and by the weekend it will be rainy and cold again. Boo!

I did the Biggest Loser Yoga DVD last night. It wasn't very hard---but I am actually sore today! Guess I was working some more muscles than I thought!

And in big news, my bf and I are going to start house hunting! Our realtor is going to e-mail us some listings tonight. I'm nervous, but also excited. Buying a house means we are closer to a wedding and babies! :) Oh, and a puppy. Haha. Our budget it pretty low, being first time buyers. But I think we will be able to find something out there right now and put a little sweat into it to make it wonderful!

I'm getting close to my weight loss goal. I have around 8 more pounds to go. And I will be at my goal by summer, and I will wear my first bikini this summer!

I also have something going on every weekend until June. I am most excited for my 24th birthday weekend next weekend! My bf is taking me to a winery tour and then out to dinner. It should be fun. And I plan on getting quite the buzz from the good ol' wine offered. :)