Tuesday, March 30, 2010
Capricorn Weddings (December 22 - January 19)
Getting married at the beginning of winter can be a lot of fun, whether the couple decides on destination nuptials in a tropical locale or a traditional wedding that coincides with seasonal family gatherings. Dignity is the key here, as that is the chief attribute of Capricorn. This doesn't mean there won't be a lot of laughs, though. The Capricorn marriage will take on some of the characteristics of a business relationship; the love life will be private, but far more passionate than outsiders might imagine.
Here is the article if you want to see what other months mean.
Monday, March 29, 2010
So before we booked our wedding we cleared it with all family members and made sure they knew we wanted a destination wedding, etc. (We also told everyone we would pay for everyone's airfare!!!) She is the only one in either family with a child. (She'll be almost 2 at the wedding) We told her that they are free to bring her and stay at Beaches (the family friendly resort tied to Sandals). She told us "no, I don't want to being her out of the country. But she can stay with my family." Ok, great! Later she changed her mind because she can't possibly leave her kid for 4 nights. So then the plan was for her to stay home and her husband (Tom's brother) would come to the wedding alone and share a room with his dad. That has been the plan now for 3 months. Until last Friday...
She decided to IM me over facebook chat and asked, "When is your MN reception going to be? And when are you going to the courthouse?"
I told her that we're undecided on the MN reception due too cost and there won't be a courthouse wedding because Jamaica is the real, legal deal.
So she said, "Oh, I guess we can't be a part of your wedding then."
And I asked, "Isn't "J" coming to Jamaica? He was supposed to share a room with his dad?"
And she said (and this is a direct quote!) "I don't think that's fair of him to take a trip in paradise without his wife.......and I am not taking our kid out of the country-and it's not an option to just leave her behind for that long-while we're out of the country. So no he's no going. we've been going around and around about this since you guys first mentioned it.
that's really the only option at this point is to opt out and not have him go either."
So I asked why her hubby didn't man up and tell my fiance that he's not coming himself?
"maybe he's holding out that i'll change my mind and let him go. But I won't. It's def. been an issue at our home for the last 4 months and the next 7 and beyond I'm sure--thanks guys for that, causing trouble between us."
She went on to tell me how NOBODY is happy about Jamaica and she is the only one with enough balls to tell me. I'm rude and selfish for asking people to go all the way to Jamaica, it would be a better wedding in MN, she can't believe I would ever ask this of his family, I'm such a bitch, blah blah blah. Too bad she signed offline while I was typing my response...
I am LIVID. I don't remember the last time I have been so mad! Tom is supposed to call his brother tonight and ask him if he's really not coming or what. I'm also making him call him mom and dad and make sure they are still ok with Jamaica. I am 95% sure she is nothing but a bitch and is just trying to cause trouble, but I want to know for sure.
I don't know what to do about this woman. She was supposed to stay at my house this summer for a few days when they come up to visit. But I told Tom she is NOT welcome in my house. His brother can come see it (but I know she won't "let" him) and he is free to hang out with them all he wants. But I won't be there. And she won't be in my house. Period.
Monday, March 15, 2010
I ordered something else from etsy today. (Granted, I've gotten everything for a good deal, much less than I would pay in a store...) Anyway, it's a tiny photo frame. On one side is a picture of my grandma on her wedding day. On the other side is a picture of my great-grandma on my mom's wedding day. I will attach this to my bouquet. Both of these women are still alive, but unable to make it to Jamaica to my wedding. I wanted them to be a part of the ceremony in some way. (It also has a "something blue" charm on it!)
Friday, March 12, 2010
Sent out our save the date postcards (covered up the last names on here...)
And our magnets
I also placed a deposit for my bouquet. I wanted mainly white/ivory peonies and orchids. Holy crap it's feeling VERY REAL! ;)
Thursday, March 11, 2010
Tuesday, March 9, 2010
Monday, March 8, 2010
I can't wait to see if they turned out good! I think she got some good shots but I'm worried about how my jeans will look. I wore some spanx to hold the tummy in and I didn't realize until we were already there that you could see the line of them clearly on my thighs! So it looked like I had shorts on under my jeans! (which I guess I kinda did!) OMG! I'm so nervous that it will ruin some pictures! :( I am literally stalking my photog's blog waiting for some previews! She said the pictures will be ready in a week...but I can't wait that long, I'll go crazy! Sigh...
But anyway, I'm glad we took engagement pictures. I got my hair done and Tom looked all spiffy too. It's not everyday we get all dressed up! ;) It was weird at first. We had to stand there and stare at each other and kiss and hold hands...and of course people were staring. But after a little bit I didn't even notice the other people around us anymore. It also made us kinda giddy like we were sooooo in love or something (haha) All in all, it was really fun and I hope the pictures turn out good too.
Friday, March 5, 2010
So Tom has two brothers. One lives in Texas and one lives about 2 hours away. The one in Texas has a wife nobody can stand. She refuses to leave her 2 year old child with her own grandma for 5 days to attend our wedding. Which I guess is fine since I don't like her anyway. Tom's brother (her husband) will come alone. Tom's other brother is single and I guess is having a hard time coming up with the money to go. Which I know is true, his hours at work got cut back. HOWEVER, Tom's dad gave each kid $5k for xmas and we told him he NEEDS to save 1k for this trip. (We weren't officially engaged yet. But we knew we were going to have a wedding in Jamaica already.) So I don't know what happened but now he says he cant go. So do we pay his trip? We can't really afford to. (And that wouldn't be fair.) But I feel bad that Tom won't have one of his brothers there!!! Tom claims he's fine with it. Obviously he wants his brother there, but he gave him fair warning and if he can't afford it, no hard feelings. I asked Tom if his dad might help pay for his brother and he said, "highly doubtful." I don't know what to do with that whole mess. I choose to ignore it for now!
Last night was spent trying on tons of clothes. Our photographer that is going to do our engagement pictures said she is free on Sunday and we need to hurry if we want pictures with snow. So I had to run out and get some clothes. I got myself a simple grey cardigan with a purple lace tank under it and Tom a dark grey sweater. Tonight we have to go get some new shoes, a necklace, and maybe some new nail polish for those close-up ring shots!
Saturday will be spent cleaning the house because we are having 8 people over for dinner and some cards.
Sunday is the above mentioned engagement pictures. (I hope I don't look FAT in all of them!)
Wednesday, March 3, 2010
I will do a quick update on the weight loss thing. Still no change in my weight. I'm stuck at 143. However, the past 2 weeks I have been pretty darn good with my eating (and tracking calories) and since I'm feeling better I've been starting to workout again too. I'm getting pretty upset that the scale won't move, to be honest. I would be THRILLED to even see 142 on the damn scale! ha! I'm not giving up and I'm still plugging along, but I want to see some progress! (and no, my clothes still fit the same...no change there either)
Last Saturday I went to the prior fat girl meet up. It was nice to be around 40 women all from the Minneapolis area who are struggling with the same issues as me. However, I did feel really out of place. I'm really shy in person and it's hard to open up. But it was nice to meet Jen of priorfatgirl.com (she's super nice!) and I got some nice samples and coupons too!
Anyway, I'll be back later (and with some wedding updates!)