So before we booked our wedding we cleared it with all family members and made sure they knew we wanted a destination wedding, etc. (We also told everyone we would pay for everyone's airfare!!!) She is the only one in either family with a child. (She'll be almost 2 at the wedding) We told her that they are free to bring her and stay at Beaches (the family friendly resort tied to Sandals). She told us "no, I don't want to being her out of the country. But she can stay with my family." Ok, great! Later she changed her mind because she can't possibly leave her kid for 4 nights. So then the plan was for her to stay home and her husband (Tom's brother) would come to the wedding alone and share a room with his dad. That has been the plan now for 3 months. Until last Friday...
She decided to IM me over facebook chat and asked, "When is your MN reception going to be? And when are you going to the courthouse?"
I told her that we're undecided on the MN reception due too cost and there won't be a courthouse wedding because Jamaica is the real, legal deal.
So she said, "Oh, I guess we can't be a part of your wedding then."
And I asked, "Isn't "J" coming to Jamaica? He was supposed to share a room with his dad?"
And she said (and this is a direct quote!) "I don't think that's fair of him to take a trip in paradise without his wife.......and I am not taking our kid out of the country-and it's not an option to just leave her behind for that long-while we're out of the country. So no he's no going. we've been going around and around about this since you guys first mentioned it.
that's really the only option at this point is to opt out and not have him go either."
So I asked why her hubby didn't man up and tell my fiance that he's not coming himself?
"maybe he's holding out that i'll change my mind and let him go. But I won't. It's def. been an issue at our home for the last 4 months and the next 7 and beyond I'm sure--thanks guys for that, causing trouble between us."
She went on to tell me how NOBODY is happy about Jamaica and she is the only one with enough balls to tell me. I'm rude and selfish for asking people to go all the way to Jamaica, it would be a better wedding in MN, she can't believe I would ever ask this of his family, I'm such a bitch, blah blah blah. Too bad she signed offline while I was typing my response...
I am LIVID. I don't remember the last time I have been so mad! Tom is supposed to call his brother tonight and ask him if he's really not coming or what. I'm also making him call him mom and dad and make sure they are still ok with Jamaica. I am 95% sure she is nothing but a bitch and is just trying to cause trouble, but I want to know for sure.
I don't know what to do about this woman. She was supposed to stay at my house this summer for a few days when they come up to visit. But I told Tom she is NOT welcome in my house. His brother can come see it (but I know she won't "let" him) and he is free to hang out with them all he wants. But I won't be there. And she won't be in my house. Period.